Archives For Deep Thoughts of a Preggers Momma

Why is it that so many people forget their manners around pregnant women?  Whether it’s a well-meaning coworker or that friend from church, their remarks can really sting, no matter how good their intentions may have been. This is especially true when you’re a sensitive, hormone-addled mom-to-be!

To save everybody some discomfort, here’s a list of things you should never say to a pregnant woman.

Are you sure you’re not having twins?

This. Is. The. WORST. It’s a not-so-subtle way of saying, “You look enormous.” Why would you ever tell a woman she looks big? What is the matter with you?

 

“OMG, you’re so small! You barely look pregnant.”

For a good portion of my pregnancy, I was small and had a barely noticeable belly. I would always get comments about other pregnant bellies being bigger than my pregnant belly. So here is the thing – just as you shouldn’t comment on how big a woman is when she’s pregnant, don’t remark on how small she is either. You might not think this one is as insulting, but it can make a first-time mom worry about whether she is measuring too small for her baby’s gestational age. Rule of thumb: Don’t make any comments about a pregnant mama’s size – trust me 🙂

“Wait Until… The Sleepless Nights/The Birth/You Have A Toddler!”

This one ALWAYS gets me! Guys, pregnancy isn’t a competition. I’m sure sleepless nights and toddler years are tough, as well as sending kids off to University. But, I’m not doing that right now. I’m pregnant, and every so often I would like to be able to have a moan about my aching back/how tired I am/my clumsiness without being dismissed as naive.

You look like you’re really ready to be done.

This is another way of saying, “Gosh, you look terrible.” It’s right up there with telling someone they look tired. Unless a person has just finished a marathon, or hosted a junior high slumber party, you shouldn’t tell them they look tired. Same goes for telling a pregnant woman she looks ready to be done.

 

You look farther along than five/six/seven/eight months. I’m sure you’ll go early.

Yes, I’m sure my doctor, who went to medical school, totally got the estimated due date wrong. Thanks for the help – I’ll make sure we revise the chart to reflect your completely off-the-wall opinion on how big my belly is.

 

You look like you’re ready to pop!

… you in the nose… 😉

Being pregnant is one of the most special times in a woman’s life. Not sure what you should say the next you are ready to time you’re chatting with a pregnant woman?

Keep it simple:

You.

Look.

Great.

That’s it. Works for postpartum women, too. Oh, and pretty much everyone else.

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My final countdown is on!!! I have less than 5 weeks until my due date with my first baby, so, I thought I would share a few of the things that have helped me get through this pregnancy, well, almost! Now, let me say, every pregnancy and person is SO different.  Some mommies don’t swell while others don’t have pelvic pain. These have been two of my biggest issues.

Below are the three items that made a difference in my pregnancy and I would definitely recommend them to my amputee preggo mommies. (And, I have even included equivalents for my non-amputee mommies.) These are products from Knit-Rite, the parent company of Preggers.

  1. Soft Sock. Well, I actually needed this product before I even got pregnant. Soft socks are used like any other socks.

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You wear your socks under your shoes; I wear my soft socks under my socket. Soft Sock fibers wick moisture away from the skin and inhibit odor. The best part is that they feel soft and cuddly worn next to my skin. For me, this is very important, since my skin is much more sensitive now that I am pregnant.

And for my non-amputee mommies, SmartKnit socks are made from similar materials for all those same wonderful reasons.

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2. Shrinkers. Like most pregnant women, I’ve gained weight during this pregnancy. Duhh, this is the only time in my life where it is acceptable and expected!!! I am going to do it, guys. Happy Holidays! LOL! But more than anything, I swelled, a lot! I stopped wearing my wedding ring, and my limbs inside my prostheses were definitely more than snug. Unfortunately, I can’t just buy bigger clothes to fit or wear compression tights/socks to help with the swelling. After talking with my prosthetist, he suggested that I wear Knit-Rite shrinkers.

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No lies here – I wore the shrinker all night like I was told. The next day I was able to fit into my socket without forcing myself into it. I was sooo happy! It’s not pleasant when you can’t fit into your walking legs – trust me!!! The compression prosthetic shrinker is usually used for control or prevention of edema following amputation surgery, for limb volumetric maintenance, to minimize hypertrophic scarring and to give compressive support for pain relief. But in my case, it definitely helped with my pregnancy swelling and I hope it will continue for the last 5 weeks!

As for my non-amputee mommies, I recommend Preggers maternity support leggings and our Core-Spun socks! They will give you the same effect as the shrinkers while looking fabulous. Aren’t you lucky? 😉

 

3. Preggers Maternity Support Bands. This is one we can all use!

Since I didn’t gain THAT much weight during this pregnancy, I didn’t think I would have too many back or pelvis issues. Boy, was I wrong. When I was about 33 weeks pregnant, I woke up with so much pelvic pain that I could barely make it to work. I kept thinking something was wrong with me, and I ended up visiting my OB/GYN . She said that this is a normal pregnancy issue, and I just need to wear a belly band to support my belly and hips. There are many types of belly bands out there, but of course I wore a Preggers by Therafirm Maternity Support Band.

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This seamless garment is made from super stretchy fibers and expands during the varying stages of pregnancy. The supportive band helps ease back discomfort and provide active moms additional abdominal support. And yes, after wearing one of these maternity support bands for a few days, my pain started to go away! It’s amazing how a simple material that supports just a tiny bit of your belly can relieve pain from your back and pelvis.

I can’t imagine finishing the last 5 weeks of my pregnancy without all of these products. Like I said earlier, every pregnancy is different and not all of these products are right for everyone. But they are right for me, and they might be right for you too! Give them a try!

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Today’s women have the luxury (can we call it a luxury, really?) of choosing when they begin their families.  Of course, this is not disregarding fertility issues that women (and men) of any age may face, but reasonably healthy parents can typically expect that they can build their families in their 20s, 30s or 40s.  Everyone always says that every woman and every pregnancy is different, and this is true.  But, there are things that you can plan to expect depending on what decade in life you are making your family.

Having a Baby in your 20s

Is it the right time?

It might be.  Biologically speaking, your body is primed and ready for pregnancy.  Conception is typically pretty easy in your 20s.  Most women will conceive within 2 months of trying.  Most medical risks are at the lowest points, including the risk of miscarriage, Downs syndrome, and other medical risks that lead to the need for a Cesarean.

Another positive to having children in your 20s is that you are still very youthful.  Things like feedings every 2 hours or chasing after an active toddler are much easier for a 20-something than a 30- or 40-something.

Financially speaking, 20-somethings may not be in as stable of footing as their 30- and 40-something counterparts.  But, the other side to this coin is that when the children are all raised and gone, you most likely have the health, the means and the ability to have a very active and fulfilled lifestyle.

Is it the wrong time?

It might be.  Although, parents in their 20s might be winning in the biology category, they probably aren’t in the financial column.  Many couples may be attending college or graduate school.  Or, they may be at the beginning stages of careers where money is tight, time off is a luxury they can’t afford, and daycare, formula and diapers are . . . well, dear God, no one mentioned how much these things are, right?!

Another thing to consider is what your friend-set is doing.  Are you in a group of other mommies-to-be or are your friends frequenting happy hour?  If your friend group is typically on the go, how will you feel when a sick child or lack of sitter prevents you from joining them?

Having a Baby in your 30s

Is it the right time?

It might be.  Your body can still hang – at least for the early part of your 30s – but your medical risks do start to increase, especially after 35.  Although, it might be a little harder to conceive than someone in their 20s, it shouldn’t be too bad.

The energy level is still pretty good in your 30s, too, but those active toddlers and feedings every 2 hours will definitely wear on you more now than in your 20s.

Parents in their 30s have typically finished their educations and have become at least somewhat established in their careers.  Financially speaking, they are usually a little more stable.  The daycare, diapers and formula become a little bit more manageable (but seriously, those things are way too expensive!).

What about your friend group?  Some of your friends might have done the early parenthood thing and some of them still might not be ready.  But, it’s a safe bet that most of them diving in to the parent pool right about now.  This makes for a ready-made support group, play-date group and a pool of resources for advice and babysitters. Win!

Is it the wrong time?

It might be.  To be honest, most of the characteristics we looked at point to your 30s being the right time for most.  But, we’ll hold to the adage that everyone is different, so there certainly may be reasons why your 30s is the wrong time for you.

Having a Baby in your 40s

Is it the right time?

It might be. Once upon a time, pregnancy this late in life was pretty rare, but we’re fortunate that lots of women in their 40s can choose to become parents now or whenever suits them.  The numbers of pregnant women in their 40s have drastically increased in the last few decades, as women have become a greater presence in the workforce and science and technology have allowed women to delay parenthood with too much cause for concern.  That said, if you haven’t yet joined the parenthood club yet, and it’s something that you want to do, it’s definitely time to get going.

Let’s be honest, the financials are probably as good as they’re ever going to be.  You’ve probably also watched many people around you build families.  You’ve learned what works and what doesn’t, so you’re well prepared for what to expect.

And most of the older parents I know tend to be wiser, calmer and more patient with their children, which are decidedly wonderful qualities to have when it comes to raising your children into well-adjusted adults.

And, what about the friends group.  Well, if your friends all had children in their younger years, they probably have kids that are looking for babysitting gigs right about now.  Win!

Is it the wrong time?

It might be.  Have you ever heard the saying about “having your cake and eating, too”?  Whenever this one is used, it never really works out to be a good thing.  In this case, it’s having that successful career AND having the perfect family all in good time.  Unfortunately, it doesn’t always work out for the best.

We as a society have accepted 40-somethings starting families as a pretty normal thing, but biology hasn’t quite gotten the message yet.  Women in their 40s have a much harder time conceiving since fertility rates have decreased significantly in the previous decade of their lives.  It isn’t impossible, though, and a healthy woman in her 40s can actually have an easy time sometimes. Her risk of complications with pregnancy, however, increases, as she has a higher chance of Cesarean, Downs, miscarriage and a number of other medical complications.  But, that doesn’t mean that a 40-something can’t have a perfectly healthy pregnancy.  It’s just something to consider.

And the friends group?  Well, a friend of mine told me the other day that she is so happy that she can go to Target by herself now and leave the children at home unsupervised.  Yes, it is liberating when they can fend for themselves.  And now when your friends are all getting together for that winery tour, you might find yourself supervising the preschool field trip to the zoo instead.

As a 40-year-old mom with a 2-year-old and a 12-year-old, I’ve definitely noticed that the toddler stage feels a little harder than it did a decade ago.  Maybe I just don’t remember the challenges a two-year-old throws at you.

When is the Right Time?

That’s really the beauty of it.  There is no right or wrong time.  Everyone is different with different goals, priorities and life circumstances.  Your family is what you make it – whenever you choose to make it.

 

We’ve had a baby boom in the office lately – and how convenient that we work for Preggers!  And as ladies tend to do, we’ve been talking a lot about the current pregnancies, as well as past ones.  It’s inevitably moved into the realm of old wives’ tales and how much truth there is to them.   And just for fun, we thought we’d explore this, because seriously, they’re wrong just as often as they’re right.  And everyone has a ton of fun predicting!  So, check out our old wives’ tales below and tell us your experiences.  Did your babies prove them right or wrong?

Here is a breakdown of our Mama test subjects. 😊

Mama #1 – This mama has had 4 babies – 2 boys and 2 girls.  She’ll be a great example when it comes to those gender predicting old wives’ tales!

Mama #2 – This mama has had 3 baby boys!  It will be interesting to see how they differ and how they’re the same!

Mama #3 – This mama has had 2 boys and a girl – including the most recent new baby in the office.  She kept the gender of each of her babies a surprise!

Mama #4 – This mama has had 1 baby boy and 1 baby girl!

Mama #5 – Our newest mama!  Her first baby is due this January!

Prediction #1: Heartburn means a lot of hair

Tradition states that when a pregnant mom has heartburn, her new baby will have a lot of hair.  Believe it or not, this one might actually have some truth to it.  Johns Hopkins did a study of 64 pregnant women ranking the severity of their heartburn and then rating the hair volume of their newborns using photographs.  The smart folks at JH actually had a complicated math formula and determined that there may actually be a correlation between the severity of heartburn and the amount of a newborn’s hair.  Who knew!?  We put this one to the test:

Mama #1 – She had heartburn with her first baby and he had no hair!!  And she had no heartburn with the other three.  All had hair – tons!

Mama #2 – This lucky mama had no heartburn with any of her babies . . . . and they all had hair!

Mama #3 – First pregnancy gave her a little bit of heartburn and baby definitely had hair.  The second and third gave her bad heartburn – and funny, one had hair, the other didn’t.

Mama #4 – This mama had no heartburn with her first baby and he had a lot of hair.  The second pregnancy gave her a lot of heartburn, and that baby also had a lot of hair, but slightly less than the first.

Mama #5 – This mama has had some heartburn, but not too bad.  Only time will tell how much hair her baby has. 😉

Prediction #2: Dry vs. Oily Skin

The prediction on this one says that dry skin is an indicator that you’re having a boy, while oily skin signals a girl.

Mama #1 – This mama had dry skin with her first boy – score one for the old wives’ tale.  But, she had normal skin with her other three – another boy and 2 girls.

Mama #2 – Mama #2 says she had normal skin with all three of her boys.

Mama #3 – This mama said she had oily skin with her first boy, and normal skin with her other two – a girl and a boy.

Mama #4 – Here’s a mama that had dry skin with her baby boy and oily skin with her baby girl.

Mama #5 – Our expectant mama says that her skin has been oily.  Girl?

Prediction #3: Pregnancy Glow

Tradition states that a girl will steal her mama’s beauty, so the mama will get compliments on her “glow” with boys, but not with girls.

Mama #1 – Mama #1 got “glow” compliments with all four of her kids – 2 boys and 2 girls.

Mama #2 – This mama had the “glow” with her three boys.

Mama #3 – LOL!  This mama had the opposite.  She got “glow” compliments with her girl, but not as much with her two boys.

Mama #4 – This mama doesn’t remember “glowing” with either her boy or her girl.

Mama #5 – Sweet Mama #5 says she hasn’t gotten any “glowing” comments yet.  Girl?

Prediction #4: The dreaded acne

Girls are said to give their mamas acne (makes sense with all that oily skin).  Boys are kinder to their mamas in this regard.

Mama #1 – Poor Mama #1.  She had acne with all four of her kids – didn’t matter the gender!

Mama #2 – Mama #2 had acne with her first BOY, but her other two boys were kinder and gave her none.

Mama #3 – This mama had acne with her first boy, but none with her girl or her second boy.

Mama #4 – This mama had no acne with her baby boy, and only a little bit with her baby girl.

Mama #5 – Finally, our expectant mama says she is experiencing a little more acne than normal.  Girl?

Prediction #5: Hair – Thick and Glossy or Dull and Limp

Thick and glossy is said to indicate a boy, while dull and limp means you’re having a girl.  (Seriously, girls!)

Mama #1 – Gender didn’t matter here.  This mama found her hair thick and glossy every time.

Mama #2 – Three boys meant three times this mama had thick and glossy hair.

Mama #3 – Another instance of gender not being a factor.  Mama #3 had thick and glossy hair every time.

Mama #4 – Mama #4 never noticed any change to her hair with her son, but did have thick and glossy hair with her daughter.

Mama #5 – Mama #5 finds that her hair is dull and limp.  Girl?

Prediction #6: Cravings

Women can crave some crazy things when pregnant, but rumor has it that salty things foretell a boy, while sweet things predict a girl.

Mama #1 – This mama craved salty stuff with her youngest boy and sweet stuff with her girls.  Her curve ball oldest boy gave her cravings of jalapenos.  Spicy!

Mama #2 – This mama craved chicken sandwiches (salty) and whoppers candy (sweet) with her first.  The other two only gave her ice cravings.

Mama #3 – This mama’s craved ice cream with peanuts with her first (sweet and salty).  Her second gave her chocolate cravings, and her third it was fudgecicles.  Sweet kids regardless of gender!

Mama #4 – This mama craved spicy foods and anything lemon-flavored with her boy and sour sweet tarts and iced tea with her girl.

Mama #5 – Our current Preggers mama tells us that she craves salty things, but also fruit. Boy?

Prediction #7: Nausea

This Old Wives’ Tale says that the more pregnancy nausea you have, the more likely a girl and the less nausea, more likely a boy.

Mama #1 – What a lucky mama!  Four pregnancies and no nausea – with her boys or her girls!

Mama #2 – Another lucky mama!  Three pregnancies and no nausea!

Mama #3 – Mama #3 had some nausea with her older son; very little nausea with her daughter; and the worst nausea with her youngest son.

Mama #4 – Mama #4 had a little bit of nausea with her son, but not too bad.  Her daughter gave her more trips to the bathroom, but still nothing too awful.

Mama #5 – Our pregnant mama says she’s definitely been feeling the nausea bug. Girl?

Prediction #8: Cold feet

Boys are said to give their mamas super cold feet, while girls don’t have the same affect.

Mama #1 – Might be true.  This mama says her boys gave her cold feet, while the girls did not.

Mama #2 – All three boys, all three cold feet!

Mama #3 – No cold feet for her girl or her oldest son, but cold feet for the younger son.

Mama #4 – Cold feet for her boy, but not for her girl.

Mama #5 – It’ll be hard to tell on this mama, as she’s a congenital double amputee!  She has no feet to determine if her baby makes her feet cold. 😉

We are all excited to find out if Mama #5 is having a boy or a girl!  Mama thinks a boy, but our Old Wives’ Tales lean toward girl!  Tell us about Old Wives’ Tales that you know and whether or not they were accurate predictors of gender or amount of hair, etc.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

As both a Mom and a Daughter, I completely believe in homemade Mother’s Day gifts.  I love getting these sweet gifts from my kiddos and I totally love giving them to my mom and my mother-in-law.  Sometimes the creativity is just not flowing, though, and I look all around for new ideas.  This year the Knit-Rite/Therafirm team got some inspiration from our own products.  The best part is, we were able to use products from several of our brands to create these adorable sock bouquets.  They’re cute and easy enough for the kiddos to do, too.  Watch our demonstration video below!

List of Supplies Needed:

• Socks of multiple colors, shapes and sizes
• A pair of tights, pantyhose or a piece of fabric of similar size and length
• Rubber bands
• Safety pins
• Your favorite vase

We used some discontinued colors of our Preggers and Therafirm brands, as well as current colors of TheraSport, SmartKnitKIDS, SmartKnit and Therafirm.  Happy bouquet making!

Should you work right up until your due date or take time off before delivery?

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Take time off before having a baby?  I can see how this would have gone for me.  Day one: bag packed, check; baby’s room all in order and ready for its occupant, check; house cleaned, check; dishes and laundry done, check.  Now for that rest and relaxation they talked about.  Butt on couch, remote in hand.  And reality sets in: daytime TV is awful!!!  Seriously!  How much can one person take of old sitcom reruns?  And don’t even get me started on soap operas!  Off goes the TV.  How about one of my hobbies that I never have time for?  This works for a while, until my thoughts migrate.  Wonder what’s going on at work?  9:00 on Monday?  Time for our weekly meeting.  Wonder what the husband wants for dinner?  I’ll call him.  Bad idea.  He’s busy.  I saw an ad for a sale at the baby boutique.  I’ll just go check it out.  And $150 later, I’ve got 3 sets of going home outfits.  Time for lunch.  More of the same through the afternoon and end of Day one.

As you can see, checking out of work early to prepare for baby was not for me.  Don’t get me wrong.  I LOVE my time off.  But, there is something strange to me about being at home while everyone else is at work.  Makes me sort of feel like staying home sick from school.  Of course, it’s a world of difference once baby was actually here and at home.  Suddenly, my days were totally and happily occupied.

I envy the people that can enjoy their time and do the relaxing they’re supposed to be doing.  However, it’s just not for me.  To each his own, right?  I opted to work right up until the day before my baby was born.  And I’m glad I did.  Once my little bundle was here, I wanted to soak up as many days with him as I could before returning to a job I love.  I truly enjoyed every ounce of being off with my baby.

So, if you’re like me and planning to work right up until your water breaks, here are a few tips to help you’ll want to consider:

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  1. Create a Plan with Your Employer – Any good employer will want to balance the needs of the employee and the needs of the company. Perhaps there are things you won’t be able to do, like lifting heavy objects, mixing certain chemicals, or traveling to the regional sales meeting during your final month.  Your employer will want to make sure the work gets done, so they may want to redistribute some duties to have everything covered.  You’ll also want to know what the employer expects of you when you have to be gone for appointments, etc.  Once a plan is in place, stick to it as much as you’re able to.  It will show your employer that you’re committed to being a good employee and a good parent.
  2. Create a Plan with Your Doctor – Let your doctor know what your working plans are. Make sure the doc knows what you do from day to day, so they can weigh in on things that may cause a danger that you haven’t thought of
  3. Have a Good Backup Plan – Even the best laid plans can be disrupted. Many women can work right up until their water breaks, but some are not so lucky.  Health considerations may sideline you earlier than you expect, so make sure you’re prepared for all possibilities.
  4. Know What to Do if You Go Into Labor at Work – What happens if your water really does break at work? Yikes!  If that happens is your co-worker driving you to the hospital?  Your boss?  Or, is someone calling your husband?  Are you going home first or is your bag already in the car?  What is the best route to the hospital from work?  All things to consider when putting together your “Going Into Labor At Work” plan – just like you do for your home plan.
  5. Know Your Limits – You may have the best intentions, but understand that pregnancy changes many things. We all know about the fatigue, morning sickness, trips to the bathroom, etc.  All the things that go along with pregnancy can affect your ability to do your job at your normal levels.  Don’t overdo it.  You may need to take more frequent breaks or sit down and put your feet up if you stand a lot during your job.  Try a pair of Preggers Maternity legwear.  Compression tights, leggings, pantyhose and socks will help reduce and prevent swelling and energize your tired and achy legs.

Remembering these tips will help you to have a happy and healthy pregnancy at home and at work.  Today’s working mama can have it all!

This evening at 9:30 p.m. CST will conclude our “Deep Thoughts of a Preggers Momma” Caption Contest on Facebook. Congratulations to this week’s winners (so far)!

(Winners: To claim your cake, please email us at preggers@therafirm.com within 72 hours. If we don’t hear from you, another winner will be chosen.)

The jury is still out on who will win the flourless chocolate truffle cake, so if you haven’t already, “like” us on Facebook and enter for your chance to win!

Monday’s Winner: Erin Tveter

Three-Layer Chocolate Cake

Tuesday’s Winner: Colleen Missana

Chocolate Caramel Pecan Cake

Wednesday’s Winner: Melissa Langlois

German Chocolate Cake

Thursday’s Winner: Mary Dowling Nesbitt

Red Velvet Cake

Red Velvet Cake

Friday’s Winner: Lisa Petracca Fuller

Flourless Chocolate Truffle Cake